Saying You Matter Isn’t Selfish 

Saying You Matter Isn’t Selfish 

There was a client who was in Phase 4 of EMDR and got stuck in a scene. This scene was not a traumatic event, but they could not get out, and were resisting all suggestions of interweaves. Even the suggestion of bringing someone with them to help them get out. “No, I...
 When the Present Isn’t Stable

 When the Present Isn’t Stable

There are times in EMDR work when the past is not the most urgent thing in the room. Not because it isn’t important, and not because it doesn’t matter, but because the present is already demanding more than the nervous system can reasonably hold. Readiness for...
Anxiety is My Friend Named Peace

Anxiety is My Friend Named Peace

I just finished an EMDR session with a client. Her Phase 5 was so cool. She has struggled with anxiety her whole life, and has always been at odds with it. She’s an I don’t matter person and we were targeting an astronomical electric bill (she shares an account with...
Capacity Before Regulation

Capacity Before Regulation

There’s a difference between helping a client regulate and assessing whether they have the capacity to do so on their own, and EMDR has a way of making that difference impossible to ignore. Regulation can be taught, modeled, even temporarily borrowed from the...
When Healing Gets Loud

When Healing Gets Loud

Abreactions happen during EMDR reprocessing. There is a beginning, middle and end with every abreaction. My guess is the most common abreaction is crying. Quick, shallow breaths and dryness in the throat would also be at the top of the list of abreactions I’ve seen....